The benefit I get as the woman is that I am loved, adored, cared for and my needs are put first. That doesn’t mean it’s only about me, but that Alice puts my happiness first. However, at the same time, Alice’s happiness is vital. I don’t want to do anything that makes her miserable. It’s a special treat as after breakfast she prefers I sit on the floor at her feet if we take a break or watch something as I’m not permitted on the soft seats. I sometimes discuss this with her as I don’t fully understand the rule but she just says my place is below her, physically and status-wise. The reason she inspects my clitty and pussy area is primarily to ensure they are correctly and neatly shaved. She was embarrassed once when a Mistress friend of hers complained that my pubic triangle was untidy. Female led relationships are the type of relationship where the woman is the one who is in charge of things and has full control over the relationship. If this kind of arrangement happens in a marriage than it is called a wife led marriage and the woman is the one who is in charge of all the decision making, while the husband stays at home and does the chores that women do in a traditional marriage. It’s not all work and normality of course. An FLR can be an immensely erotic and sensual relationship; there’s a tension that’s exciting.

From my experience leading a successful female led relationship, there are significant benefits to be had for both the woman and the man. However, there are certain steps everyone should take to ensure that the benefits of this type of relationship work for both parties. He was free, but wasn’t. He could lead his life as desired, but still wondered what limitations might be foisted upon him. The day he signed the papers Maggie had him bound face down in their makeshift basement dungeon. He had been punished and tortured into agreeing to the living trust that ensured he would never fully control the wealth he had accumulated in his lifetime. She can choose what clothes to wear, as long as it is within the confines of a skirt or a dress. I don’t want to be choosing her clothes every morning. She can watch what TV she watches or music she listens to. And so on. From the age of three I was raised by a single mother who’s a dominant female, so I would feel more secure in an FLR. The last three marriages I’ve been in didn’t work out too well since I don’t know how to take the lead. How could I when I never had a male role model? In fact, due to my past experiences from the time my dad left, I’ve cast a rather distrusting eye toward the male gender over the years. I can’t say I fancy the thought of feminisation though. Then again, I’m not what you would consider masculine either. Hi Phred, no we have not legally changed Selina’s name. She is a man, a feminized man living 24/7/365 as a woman, but still a man. As of now there are no plans for that.You have pretty solid ideas about what you do/don’t want as well as self-image issues. Entering a FLR will see you pushing boundaries that are set for you, if you enjoy the change then it may go further. Eight years ago if you’d have told me where I’d be now I would have completely dismissed it. Do I enjoy life now? Absolutely! But 90% of that comes from accepting what I was and the limits I had, and changing for the better everything I could.

So you have agreed to live an FLR, the husband is in a pretty skirt and you spank him to maintain discipline. He cooks and cleans the home. All is perfect and the sun is always shining. Right. In your dreams. As for Alice, she likes sport. Why would I stop her seeing that just because it fits a stereotypical male pastime? I want her to enjoy her life, her interests and our FLR, not see it as some kind of prison sentence or for her to be resentful. STEP 5 – A WOMAN DOESN’T WANT TO HAVE TO MAKE THE DECISIONS 24/7 As it’s Saturday she made the effort and here’s a rare photo of Lady Alexa from last night. She doesn’t like to put her photo on the blog as a rule and I had to blank her face out for obvious reasons.

You have to understand that he wants to do all those things. Some men get a thrill out of being controlled. A wife led relationship reduces disagreement and argument as I have acquiesced full control to her. I did use the word acquiesce deliberately, the dictionary definition being to accept something reluctantly but without protest. His friends considered him pussy whipped. Two of them in his circle had become lovers to his wife and, after her passing, one of them implied he expected things of Ethan, although he felt too hollowed out to consider what he meant. The financial control of his future would be explained by the lawyer later in the week. Maggie had set up a trust for him, thus ensuring she would still wield control even after her passing.

I know I shouldn’t be negative. I just know i have the desire to get there but i also know i need the guidance of a woman as I’m not strong enough to get there on my own. It’s a void that needs filling. But i already have a happy wife/happy life so i think that ship has sailed for me unfortunately. We decide to go to the cinema and Mistress likes the idea but isn’t too bothered what we watch so allows me to choose. I selected War for Planet of The Apes rather tentatively but she isn’t worried except to say I should be choosing something more feminine. But she let it go. In a moderate-intensity FLR, the woman in the relationship will take control of most things when it comes to the partnership because she knows that she is benefitting from it. However, she still wants her partner to have control over some aspects of the relationship and will let her partner know what he should be taking care of. High-Intensity FLRHowever, some men will like that a woman is making all the decisions for them in life but will not want that kind of control in their bedroom. We’re a married couple and outside of the FLR lifestyle, everything else is the same as a vanilla marriage. My Mistress therefore thinks about my needs too as any spouse would do. My views are usually considered and she uses them to come to her final decision. Since she wasn’t too bothered about what film to see and didn’t feel like thinking about it she allowed me to choose.

If you feel that you resonate with any of these questions, then you are in the right place. These types of relationships are becoming increasingly popular and can be extremely sexy, so it's definitely worth knowing about them. I love being in charge. Alice says I’m bossy. Surely not? Bossy? Moi? That said, I really don’t want a wimpy husband who makes no decisions and asks me what to do or for permission for everything.

I would probably not worry too much; I believe that some of us need to blaze a trail. Alice is not a trailblazer so we keep things under wraps. This leads us into step 8. STEP 8 – RESPECT EACH OTHER’S BOUNDARIES After I’ve cleaned up I go downstairs to prepare our breakfast. I put on a bra and my casual red cotton dress. I don’t bother with a wig or breast inserts as we’re going out later so it’s not worth the trouble. (This is Mistress’s instruction since she doesn’t want me taking too long getting ready, or faffing about as she calls it.)